20 Questions to Ask Yourself Before the End of 2013

The end of the year is a perfect moment for reflection.

It is a great opportunity to look at our live and show gratitude for everything good that happened. And it’s a perfect moment to reflect on some of the lessons we were taught.

The overwhelming feeling of joy and love only adds to this already magical moment. It helps you feel you belong and that you are cared about. This creates a perfect environment for analyzing last year. Why? Because it lowers your guard and helps you look at things objectively (rather than through our ego).

Over the past few years I have created my own “end of the year” ritual. It is based on expressing gratitude for the amazing things and people that came to my life, for all my accomplishments (both big and small) and all the dreams I managed to turn into reality. I love this ritual! Honestly, every year I just can’t wait for it. And today I want to share it with you, so you can get inspired to create your own.

So what do I do?

First of all, I need space in which I feel safe and relaxed. I make sure my mind is clear (no fighting or shouting, no stressing over anything). If necessary, I will meditate for about 20 minutes before I go into my ritual (By the way, if you want to try meditating download the free sample of this awesome music that will help you clear your mind literally within minutes. That’s what I use).

I would also get a nice cup of tea (or hot chocolate). Anything that at this particular moment will help me feel loved, pampered and safe.


And then I answer each of the following 20 questions.

  1. What was my biggest accomplishment?
  2. What was my biggest life lesson?
  3. Who are the new people who showed up in my life to play a major role in it?
  4. What was my biggest challenge or struggle?
  5. What caused the deepest sadness in me?
  6. What battle(s) did I lose?
  7. Where did I learn the most?
  8. What were the new places I visited?
  9. What were the new skills I acquired?
  10. What did I spend my time on and how much of it did I spend on things I wanted and cared about?
  11. Have I taken care of my body and mind enough?
  12. What did I procrastinate on the most?
  13. Did my fear held me back from anything?
  14. Have I overcome any of my fears?
  15. Where has self-doubt taken over me?
  16. Did I love my job?
  17. When have I felt the most alive?
  18. What doors have I closed, what stories have I finished and what people have I let go of?
  19. What new door have I opened?
  20. Have I broken any bad habits and have I started any new good ones?

On top of this, I also keep a gratitude journal. Every December, I read through it all and combine the list of the most amazing things that I got to experience in the whole year. You can read more about this process in my previous article about the benefits of expressing gratitude.

Do you have an annual self-reflection ritual?

What are your favorite ways to release the old and welcome in the new? Share your ideas and comments below.

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